What has changed the most is my ability not just to stop and to be present with the situation, but to see at a deeper level what is going on, and to just be more myself and even not have to understand it, and not have to control it.
Friday night, my wife got really angry with me for being sick. and for going to bed at 7 pm. I had had the flu for about 3 weeks. It sounds silly, she was just saying ‘I want time with you.’ My natural response six months ago would have been to fly off and to say, ‘are you kidding me, this is ridiculous!’ But, Instead I just kind of sat and just let her be, and listened. It was amazing to be present like that, and listen. There were some deeper thoughts, not just what is going on right now, but what am I feeling and what do I think she was feeling. And how can I support and love her. She said things that really hurt me when she was angry at me. That is really hard to hear. Right now I feel it too, [cries], but I think the tears is really more compassion for her.